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7 Tips to Help Cope with Holiday Stress via Kaiser Permanente
As a public health educator, protecting your mental health is essential to healthy living and well-being. Family holiday parties can be stressful, whether it’s another political argument with your uncle or the absence of a loved one who passed. To help you tackle some of these challenging situations, Leigh Miller, LCSW, a therapist and social worker at Kaiser Permanente, shares tips on how to cope.
How to cope with stressful family situations
Managing stressful situations can seem overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. Here’s how to prepare for seven complex — but familiar — family stressors during the holidays.
Political disagreements
Political discussions can lead to significant family disagreements or arguments in some families.
How to prepare: Make the topic off-limits, if possible. Miller suggests reaching out to your family before your holiday gathering. Let them know that rather than talk about politics, you’d prefer to focus on what’s going on in their lives.
Day-of tactics: If politics arise, gently remind your family that you’d prefer not to discuss the topic. You can also excuse yourself from the conversation and take a short break. Go for a 15-minute walk or chat with another family member.
Helpful Tips for Managing Stress while Working from Home
The COVID-19 pandemic shifted 88% of organizations worldwide to mandate remote work in 2020. As many individuals are beginning to turn their attention toward 2021, employees who went abruptly from working full-time in an office setting are beginning to wonder what will happen in 2021 (Marinova, 2020)? Nearly two-thirds of U.S. workers working remotely during the pandemic would like to continue full-time after the pandemic or adjust to a hybrid schedule integrating working in the office and at home (Brenan, n.d.).
Depression and Stress may be Dampening your Sex Drive
Stress, Depression, and Sex
“Sexual dysfunction” can be a scary term that brings up visuals of pill bottles and medical tests, but in reality, sexual dysfunction is defined simply as disturbances in sexual desire or functioning (Laumann, Paik, & Rosen, 1999), which is something that many people experience at one point or another in their sexual lives. People who experience emotional problems, like depression, or stress-related problems are much more likely to experience some kind of sexual dysfunction or disturbance in their sexual desire. That’s not to say that everyone who has a stressful lifestyle will have low desire or some other sexual dysfunction, but stress and/or depression are often a factor when it comes to low desire.
Sex is an important part of keeping your romantic relationship healthy, both emotionally and physically. Many people suffer from stress related to jobs, family, children and a number of other factors. Not surprisingly, we aren’t able to compartmentalize our problems, and stress has a way of seeping into all areas of our lives. Stress can affect hormones in the body, which are related to the sexual libido (Castellanos, 2013). It also affects our general mood and how we interact within our relationship on a day to day basis. If you’re stressed, you often aren’t able to relax and enjoy your partner, in or out of the bedroom.
Depression is also associated with impaired sexual functioning and satisfaction. People who are depressed experience a loss of interest in activities they once enjoyed, a reduction in energy, low self-esteem, and difficulties experiencing pleasure (Baldwin, 2001). Considering these symptoms, it’s not difficult to imagine why depressed individuals may also experience problems in their sexual relationships.
More than a little stressed out?
Do you find yourself feeling angrier, agitated, and short of patience? Is it becoming more difficult to relax and focus on the things you enjoy? Do you lay awake at night dwelling on the day’s conflicts, unpaid bills, or other common stressors? When stress becomes overpowering it can leave us feeling powerless. It can cloud our judgment, and limit our ability to think lucidly. Moreover, allowing ourselves to become puppets in the hands of our stressors can take a heavy toll on both our physical and mental health.